O Lord save Thy people and bless Thine inheritance
Granting to Thy people victory over all their enemies
And by the power of Thy cross, preserving Thy Kingdom
|Crowning, June 2013|
I can’t help but be happiest, though, about the defeat of the anti-marriage equality crusaders. The defeat of people who signed up to lose, who wasted their time and ours on a platform of animus and contempt. The defeat of people who put principle over the practical, who fought to preserve their limited understanding of an already imperfect institution over the actual human lives that would benefit from it. The defeat of people who did what bigots do: discriminate, vilify, fear-monger, argue irrationally and without respect to human dignity, and then bristle when they’re called out for what they are (bigots).
The jig is up. The world has turned and left you fuming, seething, weeping. Fuck you, Mike Huckabee. Fuck you, Bryan Fischer. Fuck you, Maggie Gallagher. Fuck you, Ben Carson. Fuck you, Fox News. You should all feel like assholes because you are all assholes. And now you’re also, definitively, losers. And it feels incredible.
When my gay friend asked me whether I was required to hate her, I told her no. She asked me why. I told her it’s because, even though I see homosexual activity (though not identity) as sinful, I believed my own sins were far worse than hers. It’s true. I really do. And I am (by choice) bound by my faith commitments to believe that, to see myself as the “chief of sinners.” I confess that every time I am about to engage in the most central act of my faith—receiving Holy Communion.
I believe, O Lord, and I confess that Thou art truly the Christ, the Son of the Living God, Who didst come into the world to save sinners, of whom I am chief.So while we do say homosexual conduct is sinful, we do not condemn homosexuals, even practicing homosexuals, much less condemn them to eternal damnation. Instead, we place them behind us as sinners. This is something that is not well understood, so much so that I have had lengthy discussions with people who, after literally hours of discussion, remain outraged that we see homosexuals as "sinners." Well, get in line. Behind me. We see everyone as a "sinner." No one escapes that judgment. Nor do we pretend that those with same sex attraction are qualitatively different than we are, other than of course being lesser sinners than me. Same sex attraction or activity is no different than the sin I commit every time I linger my eyes on a woman other than my wife. Except, of course, that my sin is worse. Worse because I am betrothed and wed to another. Worse because I do it more often than I should. Worse because I hold a clerical office in the Church. Worse because I am to worry about my own sins and not those of my neighbor, so I commit the sins of self-love and pride when I judge my neighbor and excuse myself. Moreover, we believe that sexual activity or attraction within heterosexual marriage can also be sinful. Both when we seek out that activity selfishly and when we selfishly deprive our spouse of that intimacy. So when we say we are worse sinners than you, please believe we mean it. Because we really believe that we are.